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The Freedom of Self-Denial



One of the traditional Lenten practices is self-denial. Often this leaves us asking the question, “What should I give up for Lent?” The answers vary – chocolates, cakes, bread, wine, shopping, blogging…. We endure for God’s sake forty days of self-denial. We give up some ordinary thing or activity and with the celebration of Easter we reward ourselves with whatever thing or activity we had given up. How then has our life changed? It is almost as if our self-denial was just a period, of time out. Children are sometimes put in time out when they have misbehaved. They are separated from their friends, toys, and usual activities – sitting on their bed or in the corner. After a short period of time, they resume their normal activities. Surely Lent is more than the Church’s version of time out.


The risk of self-denial is that it becomes self-centred. Self-denial is not the goal or object of our Lenten journey. God is. Self-denial does not gain for us God’s approval. God does not necessarily need or want our Lenten disciplines. God wants us. Self-denial asks us to look at and let go of the ways, things, activities, and sometimes even the relationships that stand between us and God. This is not just for a season but for a lifetime.


I remember speaking with my spiritual director some years ago about what I should give up or do for Lent. I offered him my list of ideas. He said no to all of them – no fasting, no reading, no theological thinking, no journal writing. He asked me to just show up – to simply be present and listen. He did not call it self-denial, but it was. I was to deny myself the need to be productive and busy. I was to let go of my need for answers, the safety of rational thought, and trust the silence. I would have to let go of being in control. Lent would not be done according to my list or agenda. Every one of these places of self-denial became an entry point for the risen Christ.


Ultimately, self-denial frees us to be who we truly are. Hear the insightful words of Alexander Elchaninov in The Diary of a Russian Priest:


Self-denial, which is so often mentioned in connection with the practice of Christianity, is conceived by some as an end in itself; they look upon it as the essential point of every Christian’s life.


But it is only a way and a means for achieving our end – the putting on of Christ.

Neither must we think, as others do – going to the opposite extreme – that self-denial means renouncing one’s personality, one’s own path, a sort of spiritual suicide. Quite the contrary: self-denial is liberation from the slavery of sin (without self-denial we are prisoners), and the free manifestation of our true essence as originally designed for us by God.



Sources

The Diary of a Russian Priest (English and Russian Edition) - Aleksandr V. Elchaninov

A Treatise on Self Denial- Thomas Manton

Michael Marsh Blog

Finding Jesus in the Storm - John Swinton

The Shadow of the Cross: Studies in Self-denial - Walter J Chantry

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